you have to own your own BS. stop pointing fingers in every other direction and every other person. what part have you played in your own life situation? what responsibility are you taking for the events in your life? life just doesn’t happen to you, you are a participant, an active one! once you take responsibility you are able to make changes. once own your BS you can work with it to remove it. nobody can do it for you, nobody has done this to you.
when you find yourself placing blame or pointing a finger, it is time to take a step back and see what part you have, what responsibility is yours and work for there, a place of self improvement.